Showing posts with label Women. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Women. Show all posts

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Attend This




Celebrate the 100th International Women's Day in St. Paul at Soaring Toward Gender Democracy: A Community Dialogue Event, Celebrating Refugee & Immigrant Women for Change

Tuesday, March 8th from 3 - 6:30 PM at St. Catherine University (remember to RSVP to RIWCNOW@capiusa.org by the 4th). The event is free and open to all, there will be performances, art, speakers & small group discussion. Come, surround yourself with those who believe in the strength, beauty & future of refugee and immigrant women. 

Show up & you'll know at least one person (hint - it's me). 

Friday, February 25, 2011

I stand with PP


I stand with Planned Parenthood because:

All women, no matter what their economic status - deserve quality health care services such as pap smears, preventative immunizations/screenings, prenatal healthcare, contraceptives & STI testing.
Not to mention - a safe haven for resources on body image, pregnancy prevention/testing, sexual assault & domestic abuse support services. 
All men deserve an affordable, safe, quality resource for cancer screening and sexual health / contraceptive services. 
I felt more comfortable with my Planned Parenthood OBGYN - then any other Dr. in my life. 
All women have the right to decide when they want to become mothers. 
An attack on Planned Parenthood is an attack on the rights and equality of women.  
It's not only about abortion. 
If Planned Parenthood was an organization focused on men's health - there would be no fight.  
I believe in the fight for women
It's very likely you know multiple individuals who have at some point in their lives used Planned Parenthood services.  
When women are able to take control over their own bodies, the poverty gap is reduced.
& so is the gender gap.

I can go on. But I think you get it.

If you're a woman. If you care about a women. If you believe the Government should back off uterus'. If you believe that the contraception for wild horses is less important than quality sexual healthcare services for women (that. is. real). If you believe in the equality of men & women. Or, simply, if you want to continue being my friend ... Stand with Planned Parenthood.

Again, Stand with Planned Parenthood
Again? Okay. Stand with Planned Parenthood

& ask yourself,

Would the world stand by if it were men who were dying just for completing their reproductive functions?

- Asha-Rose Migrio, UN Deputy Secretary General, 07

& start reading: Fair and Feminist

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

before bed.

50 Books Every Woman Should Read -- New Bucket List Item.

& hey, my book hording habits are working in my favor - finally - because I already own a nice chunk of them! This list almost makes me ready for this inevitable Minnesota winter.
...if only I had a cozy reading chair.

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Where There is Joy There is Henna

A few weekends ago my dear friend Jess came up to visit & because it's 'what we do' - there were many adventures involved. Including, but not limited to: a 5 mile Kayaking trip down the Cannon River (the next weekend I did a 12 mile with Mike - still sore), an authentic Turkish meal at the Black Sea (even after a few appetizers & main courses we found room for baklava/Turkish coffee), & most notabily a trip to Minneapolis' own SomaliMall for henna. 


Henna is a plant native in some regions of Africa, southern Asia, and northern Australasia (I had to look it up too). Since umm - forever* it's been used to dye skin, hair, fingernails, wool, leather, and silk. The earliest texts link henna skin dying with celebrations of a woman's marriage/fertility.

Henna is a symbol of luck, beauty, and joy - and the most detailed and exquisite patterns are saved for brides to be. Today the hands and feet of many husbands to be are dyed as well. This pre-wedding celebration is sometimes called 'The Night of Henna'. It is not uncommon to see women with simple henna designs on their hands and fingernails daily. But intricate designs are saved for weddings, holidays, and celebrations.


Henna can be a great way for women to make money too! At Karmel Square a young woman named Hawa decorated Jess and I. She was trained by her older sister Halima, and together they were apprenticing their niece Eda. Business women?!

It's the beauty of henna that really gets me.
The small shops & spaces where women come together to be decorated with henna - are truly magical. You can feel girl power. It breaks through all differences of background, race, language, religion, etc. Be it in a hotel room in D.C. with girls from Tanzania and Nigeria, Khalda's living room, a hole in the wall beauty shop, or a small space in Karmel Square (Somali Mall) - henna brings women together & makes them feel good!
*for more detailed information on henna click here

Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Kindness of Strangers

So remember when I blogged about the novel The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo by Stieg Larsson? & I also said something about bothering a customer at the deli with all sorts of questions about it?! Well, wellllllll today before heading back home, Natalie from Washington came in and gave it to me. Isn't that sweet?

I've been serving her, her daughter, and mother  for a few weeks, and slowly been forming an interesting bond. I may have known their favorite drinks and dishes before their names, but let me tell ya - a few tears were present at our short & sweet goodbye today.

At the end of it all, I'm thankful for this rain - it's time to read.
At the end of it all II - this is all the more proof that I should move to Washington, yes?

Thursday, July 1, 2010

It's Madly Fab

Not too long ago I raved about my first issue of MN Women's Press, and kids - my second is equally fabulous. I highly encourage you all to pick up a copy of the July issue (I got mine at Goodwill in Hastings) or visit www.womenspress.com

One my favorite articles this month was called Alice's Journey by Lyndall Johnson. Even though I had seen Tim Burton's Alice in Wonderland I never took note of all the girl power! Johnson praises the movie for finally portraying a Heroine the right way -- a woman who defies cultural norms, stands up for the greater good, and follows her dreams - no matter what society says!

Emily and I watched the film tonight, her for the first time and I with a new perspective. Let me tell ya - it rocked my girl power socks right off. I've enjoyed the stories of Alice for a long time - so to now see my dear Alice as a positive female role model - warms my heart.

"From the moment I fell down this rabbit hole I've been told what I must do and who I must be! I've been shrunk, stretched, scratched and stuffed into a teapot! I've been accused of being Alice and not being Alice, but this is my dream. I will decide where is goes from here! ... I make the path."

Friday, June 25, 2010

"I've caused myself a lot of grief, but that's what a life acting on principle is all about." 

- Brooksley Born*, former Head of the Commodity Futures Trading Commission

*Brooksley Born predicted the recent US financial blowout, but was hushed and shamed by some of Washington DC's most powerful men. 

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Whoooops

Sorry. Can't blog. Too busy attempting to soak up vitamin D between rain showers, play with my new kitten Dharma, catch World Cup games, work, go on interview(s), annnnnd spending every other second - absorbed in Half the Sky by Nicholas D. Kristof and Sheryl WuDunn.

Heads up - I'm starting to toy with the idea of  making it required reading for anyone who wants to be my friend.

Monday, June 14, 2010

Community & Change

I recently sat on a copy of the MN Women's Press. I've seen copies of the publication floating around, but it wasn't until I sat on one that I picked one up. & today - I couldn't put it down. 

In fact, I lapped up every. single. word. The articles are easy to read, inspiring, current, thoughtful, and local. 

This gets better - you can read it online! http://www.womenspress.com/ 

Feel like you don't have time to browse it all? Here ya gooooo (my favorites):
Think About It - OMG those Grannies stole my heart.
Trash Talk - 2 bags of trash per year?! Tips from one local women on how you can do the same!
A Wider Worldview - the importance of experiencing new things to expand your thinking, creativity, & overall life happiness.
Immigration Equity - immigration laws  - they affect more populations then you think!

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Hijab Style

http://hijabstyle.blogspot.com/ <----- THIS. Is very cool. 

Hijab Style is a UK blog dedicated to the Hijab & Islamic style. The blog covers: both high fashion runway and street style inspirations, seasonal tips/trends, updates on Islamic dress in the media, DIY, work wear, personal stories of empowerment and liberation, international style, how to wear a hijab, owning one's body, reasons why individuals wear the hijab, & more.


Maybe someday I will become a Hijabista (I didn't make that word up), but for now - people like Kim and I will just be proud supporters. To all of my friends who wear a hijab (or other forms of head coverings) I applaud your faith... and STYLE. 

I heard about Hijab Style via BBC News you can find the article here

Monday, March 8, 2010

love this!!

Iowa Resource for International Service (IRIS) has created a quiz focusing on International Women's Day. It is fun and full of interesting/surprising facts about women around the world.

equality for all.

All around the world today people are celebrating International Women's Day.

Dating back to 1909, it is a day to appreciate, respect, love, and celebrate the women of the world. In some countries March 8th is a mixture of Valentine's/Mother's Day; where men give flowers, sweet notes, and extra love to the women around them. Though most people observe the day through a highly charged awareness raising, political, and social change lens. Because no matter how far we've come- women are still not treated as equals in our world.

This 2010 many are fighting to spotlight the issue of violence against the world's displaced women. A displaced person is one who has been forced to move from their native home due to discrimination, violence, persecution, etc. Women and children make up the majority of Internally Displaced Persons (IDP) and Refugee Camp populations. In these camps women are often the victims of extreme violence which includes but isn't limited to: rape, genital mutilation, slavery, and murder. Gender based violence is one of the world's leading issues today.

I realize that sometimes these issues feel untouchable. One of the easiest/best ways of making changes in the world is to let congress know how you feel. THIS INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY: DO SOMETHING. Women Thrive Worldwide did most of the work for you even: click here & tell your congressperson you want to see the International Violence Against Women Act (IVAWA) passed.

Women are our future. It starts with empowering and educating the world's women (equally important is educating yourself about world issues). Greg Mortenson the author of Three Cups of Tea says it best, "You can hand out condoms, drop bombs, build roads, or put in electricity, but until the girls are educated a society won't change."

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Ms.

Just read an old issue of Ms. magazine from COVER to COVER.
I'm in love.

So. Now the question is - do I buy a subscription and support the cause oooor save some trees/my bank account and rely on the Red Wing public library...

Something to do today: admit you are a feminist; it simply means you believe that men and women are equal folks!

Monday, February 1, 2010

UNTIL THE VIOLENCE STOPS

February's here. Time to start talking vaginas.
Yes, yes, check it again, I said vaginas.

Now, as a lover of love, I LOOOOVE me my valentines day. Just what the depressing month of February needs; glittery hearts, secret admirers, romantic comedies, dark chocolate, and looooove in the air.

But for millions of women and girls worldwide, it is not love, but violence that consumes daily life.

Eve Ensler, the author of works such as The Vagina Monologues, The Good Body, and Insecure At Last, started the movement known as V-Day. The most common way to support V-Day is to attend a Vagina Monologues performance or Ensler film showing near you! Ames M-Shop, I'll be seeing you Friday, February 12th! (Cheering on my beautiful friends Kimmy and Christelle!)

I know it sounds scary. Really, I do. I was scared too, but after my first show in 2008 I went home and wrote this to my aunties, mommy, and friends:
"On Valentines Day, Megen and I went to the Vagina Monologues. ALL you females in the house- find a performance somewhere AND GO. Bring the men. Sounds scary- sounds too feminist or awkward - but it is fabulous. We laughed. We cried. We really did feel empowered and educated. We went home wanting to scream VAGINA! ... not. even. kidding. Really. GO! GO! GO!"
You will not find man haters, flaming bras, or tampons.
Instead, expect to sit in an atmosphere of love. Expect to hear stories of both confusion and understanding, of peace and violence. Expect to leave inspired. Expect to feel sexy and proud to be a woman (or a man who appreciates women). Expect to laugh, cry, and go, mmmhmmm. & if you're in Ames, expect chocolate vaginas for sale.

Ticket proceeds are donated to local women's shelters/organizations and also support V-Day's spotlight area. 2010's spotlight is the Democratic Republic of the Congo, where rape, forced prostitution, kidnapping, and other gender-based horrors are a daily threat to women and girls. This Valentines season, don't forget about the women and girls around the world who need our dire help. Take time during this dreary month to learn more about the V-Day movement because us Vagina Warriors aren't going anywhere "Until the Violence Stops".

(read more about V-Day from: www.vday.org where you can also find more information on Eve Ensler, her mission, ways to participate, and your nearest V-Day performance)

V-day's mission:

V-Day is an organized response against violence toward women.

V-Day is a vision: We see a world where women live safely and freely.

V-Day is a demand: Rape, incest, battery, genital mutilation and sexual slavery must end now.
V-Day is a spirit: We believe women should spend their lives creating and thriving rather than surviving or recovering from terrible atrocities.
V-Day is a catalyst: By raising money and consciousness, it will unify and strengthen existing anti-violence efforts. Triggering far-reaching awareness, it will lay the groundwork for new educational, protective, and legislative endeavors throughout the world.
V-Day is a process: We will work as long as it takes. We will not stop until the violence stops.
V-Day is a day. We proclaim Valentine's Day as V-Day, to celebrate women and end the violence.
V-Day is a fierce, wild, unstoppable movement and community. Join us!

Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Veil Me

Today's top story on the BBC website is, "France MPs' report backs Muslim face veil ban: A French Parliamentary committee has recommended a partial ban on women wearing Islamic face veils." Should this ban get passed face covering veils will no longer be allowed in, "hospitals, schools, government offices and on public transport."

First off... I cannot say that I understand everything (the personal, the political, the religious, the feminist, the submission, the pressure, the comfort, etc.) about veiling. I cannot say I have a background on French policy, nor the Koran. I cannot even say that I have a clear opinion on the matter.

But here is what I CAN say:

-I've seen the the negative treatment of veiled women in United States hospitals, airports, and city streets. Smart, kind, beautiful women, who are all wonderful mothers, daughters, and friends.
-I've lived with a woman who chooses to veil for the respect of her parents, community members, and mostly, herself and her God.
-I've veiled my own body out of respect and fun (and only once because of pressure).
-Most of the women with whom I've been in contact have had the choice to veil or not. On the contrary, I also realize that not all women in the world are allowed to choose and that, is a serious issue needing attention.
-I know that there are different types of veils ranging from popular hijabs to more full covering niqabs and burkas.
-I believe that Vogue could have a hay-day with the spunk, colors, patterns, and creativity of female Islamic fashion. (Aesthetically, I was never let down on the women's Metro cart in Cairo).
-I know that early Christian women veiled (including the Virgin Mary).
-In my experience, most women do not veil in their own homes around close family and friends (both male and female) that they love and trust.

My dear friend Khalda, beautiful with and without her veil. Always blue, pink, or floral.

In my opinion, there is nothing to be scared of - if only we can respect a women's personal decisions, reexamine our ideas on beauty, and fear not things we do not understand.

Something to love today: personal style.

Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Thank You Ensler and Kingsolver

Tilde and I had a long conversation about what it takes to appreciate Cairo. We concluded that one 'simply' needs to have a passion for culture, an open/flexible mind and person, and an ability to see beauty in the smallest of things.

A Beauty In:

The glimpse of a leopard print shirt under the full covering of a niqab.

Piles of fruit for sale on the street; the greens of mangoes, oranges (ironic, I know), apples, peppers, and pears.

Call to prayer, 5 times a day when millions (billions around the world) take a pause in their day to drop everything and praise their God. I see it as the only consistent thing in Cairo (other than bad traffic), it comforts me.

Mostly, I see beauty in strength. In Khalda and her friends (along with the entire Sudanese community) who face daily racism, but continue on with smiling faces. In the elderly who shuffle their way around this chaotic city. In the sweat of people who work hard for minimal pay.

The women here, amaze me. I personally struggle daily with my lack of freedoms due to my sex. I get so angry about my inability to roam, dress, speak, and stare freely. Cat call after cat call, stares that burn, and a constant awareness that I'm female- by the end of the day I'm exhausted. Granted, I face a different kind of harassment than Egyptian women because I am foreign. I am young, American, and in the minds of young Egyptian males I am Angelina, Jennifer, Britney, and Beyonce combined. Yet, through all the oppression when I enter the women's cart on the metro I'm surrounded by smiles, laughter, respect, style, and love.

Today tutoring I got to meet three inspirational women. Ask me their names and I will not remember them. Ask me about their smile - and I'll do my best to describe it. All three of the women came in today, simply to talk. To practice their skills in English.

First there was the woman who works at the Cairo Opera House. She is an artist who finds happiness in the warmness of orange, yellow, and red. She lives with her mother and it is obvious she wants more, but doesn't complain. Instead she talks about her job and friends. She talks about her dreams to travel, because when she travels she feels alive.

Then there was the young Somali woman. She studies both Arabic and English to be a Social Worker. She is one of two Somali students in her class at Cairo University. Her daily 45 minute trip each way to school doesn't bother her, because here she feels safe. There is no one trying to hurt her in Cairo, no killing on the streets, a constant fear of violence does not exsist. So she complains about nothing.

I got to end my time with a middle aged single mother from Eritrea. I was able to sit beside a woman who would do anything for her children. She didn't understand a word I said in English, or a word in Arabic. She lives with only her children and a constant state confusion and fear. She knows though, that education is her key to survival. So she goes to English classes twice a week, and goes home to immediately teach her children. They teach her the Arabic that their young minds pick up so easily. She holds onto her native tounge also - her children are learning three languages.

These three women were all inspirations, to just keep - keeping on. They were all scared. Scared of being alone, of language, of homework, of the city, of the heat, of their past experiences, of what is still left. Yet, each talked about their mothers and Oprah. About their dreams and passions. Each of them had a smile on their face and in their eyes.

How can I not fall in love with a city when it holds so many surprises and so much beauty?
One just has to search for it a little harder here, but hey, welcome to the Middle East.

Sunday, October 4, 2009

Khalda Ahmed Mohamed


Where do I even start to talk about my new roommate/friend...
Khalda : use your throat (a slight cough helps) and say hall-lee-da

Likes: Bollywood, Dancing, Chips, MiniMe, Michael Jackson, everything Sudanese, Shopping, the color Pink, Pizza, the Sunset
Dislikes: My Hair, Cats/Dogs, Camels, Egyptians/Egypt (we're trying to work on that), Stairs

Oh this woman. She is always making me take pictures of her and following it with, "So you won't forget me", but in reality I couldn't forgot her if I tried.

Khalda is 29 years old and originally from Sudan has been in Cairo for 3 years. She is living in the city as a refugee, which doesn't make her life easy here. Not helping out her situation is the fact that her heart (Mr. Anwar) lives in Des Moines, and has been for the last 4 or 5 years. But still she almost always has a smile on her face. Her ultimate goal is to make it to the US to live with Anwar in Iowa. The best way to describe Khalda is by her former jobs- a nurse and primary school teacher.

We've been clicking well.

Most apparent with a quick review of our sleeping situation is our shared amount of stubbornness. Khalda believes that because I am the guest I should sleep in her bed, and she on a mattress pad in the living room. I feel that she should be able to sleep in her own bed. So most nights one can find Khalda sleeping on the mattress pad in the living room, and I on the couch. This set up has lead to nightly 13 year old giggle sessions over our men in Iowa, some of our best English/Arabic lessons, once there were sit-ups, and a lot of movie watching (mostly a mix of Bollywood and old 90s movies). I've been learning a lot about Khalda from her reactions to American movies.

Here are some Khalda reviews (remember- MBC MAX Cairo Movie station has limited options):

2Pac the Resurrection: after a full two hours of rap, drugs, arrests, and rape charges all Khalda had to say about 2Pac was, "What a shame he never got married".
Austin Powers 2: even the mention of MiniMe can get this lady on the floor laughing... and the dancing, she loved the dancing.
Fighting Temptations: after this movie Khalda couldn't stop proclaiming her love for Beyonce, the word 'booty', and African American church choirs.

Anyway, we use the bed mostly for clothing storage and napping.

If it wasn't for our love our humor and laughing - A. I'd be home already or B. one of us would probably be seriously injured by the other. I need to record her laugh before I go home because its the definition of sweet and so dangerously contagious. Most of our laughs come during our nightly "intensive" (our normal lessons are all day/every day while we simply live and help each other out with vocab, grammar, spelling, and reading) language lessons ... usually including snacks, TV, lots of soda, pajamas, and a lot of making fun. Right now I'm helping Khalda with her reading (trying to really emphasize Past/Present/and Future). While I am working my way through the Arabic alphabet... omg it is hard. I'm not used to using my stomach help me speak nor doing crazy tricks with my throat and tongue. Needless to say, we are both struggling through each other's native tongue... but trying to have a good time doing it. Khalda is at an early intermediate level of English and doing SO WELL. Daily she is my personal translator. Sometimes I wonder if I'm teaching her at all.

I must confess- there is one thing I know I'm not teaching her... "You're welcome". Khalda has learned somewhere (I have a theory that it was The Godfather or something) that the best response to "Thank You" is "Don't mention it". Kind of normal, yes, but not when you hear Khalda's mobster/slurred version of it. I know that I will have to teach her "You're welcome", but for now I can't bring myself to end the hilarity.

More than just teaching language we've been learning a lot from each other. I am learning to dance, cook, and how to dodge cars in Cairo traffic correctly. Khalda really wants me to help her loose some kilos - we'll see how that goes. As much as I keep reminding her that 1. the gym is my idea of hell, and 2. I came to be a personal English teacher NOT trainer - she just won't loose the idea. So we'll see what happens... if anything I can use a gym for their shower (the basin bathing has been getting old and a bit awkward). I am doing my best to teach her basic things about American culture though (including a few lectures on hygiene, cleanliness, and food safety). We are both having a good time, and even when the woman frustrates me all she has to do is say, "Jeannnnna don't be mad at me" and hand me a chicken sandwich (true story) and all will be forgiven.

Khalda Khalda Khalda. It's going to be an interesting two months.
*the Picture is Khalda and our friend Rusha in Ismalia City

Tuesday, September 22, 2009

Dance like an Egyptian

I've been trying to mentally recap everything I've been doing in the last few days but it is a hard task when you don't know when yesterday ended and today started.

Saturday was the last day of Ramadan and Sunday marked the beginning of the Eid. So it was new PJs (a tradition I love) and a frightening amount of toy cell phones and guns (a tradition I kept my mouth shut about) for the kiddies. Sunday was filled with naps (we didn't sleep on "Eid eve"), spankin' new clothes, visiting relatives, and eating. Lots of eating. Basically all of Sunday I was lost in Arabic chatter, but during my daze of nods and smiles (when I heard my name) I was able to think a lot about the ways holidays are celebrated in the US (my simple conclusion: the same, excpet we add alcohol). Celebrating the Eid made me excited that I'll make it back to the US in time for Thanksgiving and Christmas. I feel really fortunate that I was able to take part of such a special time of the year for billions of people worldwide.

Even staying up all night on Saturday wasn't too difficult- I was on quite the culture high. Khalda, her friend Nabib, and his daughter Amira and I went to the Suez Gulf and walked around. We smoked Shisha, drank cokes, and chowed on some street food - it was some kind of hot tomato soup like liquid with beans (since then- I've fallen in love with street food; I've had a gyros, falafel, kushari, and bamboo juice).

After our relaxation by the gulf we checked out the pier (which was deafening/beautifully sounded by drums ... and techno). There were so many people hanging out, selling tea, riding bikes, and listening to the music. There were also lines and lines of decked out boats full of more rope and dangle lights than the tackiest of houses during Christmas. Nabib treated us to a ride on one, and that's where it happened- my FIRST encounter with Egyptian dancing. Oh my Lord do they dance. It was SO fun - all the drums, hips, techno, and snaps - I felt like I had my first surreal moment of culture. So when we went home, naturally I gathered all the women and children - and we danced. Frankly, I don't think I've got enough sass and sex in me to mimic Egyptian dancing (I do better walking like an Egyptian- har har), but alas, I'm trying- and in the process giving Khalda and friends a good laugh.



I saw more dancing today when on my boat ride down the Nile. Its just so fun to see everyone come alive with the music and dancing! Some of the kids started break dancing, and although I almost got kicked in the face it was definitely a highlight (and I've got a decent video). The views were amazing on the boat ride- if only the country wasn't full of liter!

Another highlight of my weekend happened after the dance lesson (remember- it's like- 3 AM now :)), I got to go to the hair salon! It was literally a hole in the wall jam packed with women. Khalda and her friend got hair removed from their faces and brows with string- once I saw tears I turned down their offer of taking a go at me. (Eventually I let them 'sting' a side burn- it wasn't too painful) I also turned down Khalda's offer to pay for me to get my hair straightened... the iron, well, it was a metal rod that sits over a flame until it touches your hair. No thank you. I'll keep my hair, even if Khalda thinks its crazy.

Oh Khalda, Khalda, Khalda... I love her. I think one of these days I'll write a entry specific to her. If it wasn't for her generosity and bubbly nature- I'd probably be home with y'all already. Things are getting better everyday. Although, we are back in Cairo now and it's size is really intimidating! I'm trying to use the Arabic I've learned more often (the whole 10 words of it) my "Thank You", "Hello", and "Water" in English need to stop coming so naturally!

I hope all is well in the States, people here ask about you often.

All the Love,

Jeanna